A friend is struggling with being a mom, wife and juggling her career at the same time. She turned to her friends and asked for ideas to make things easier.
Any woman who takes on the selfless and unconditional responsibility to nurture the emotional and physical well-being of her kids and manages to do that successfully amid the chaos of running a household and often juggling a career has to be a Super Mom! Right?
I asked myself what I thought it meant to be a Super Mom.
I personally think being a Super Mom is a notion and not reality. She is a woman who has been programmed to 'do all' and 'be all' for everyone. Women have been taught to maintain a clean home, feed our family healthy foods, be the nurse, the care-giver, the taxi driver, the chef, the counsellor, the coach, the motivator, the boo-boo kisser and the list goes on.
She is also a completely stressed out and unhappy Mom with a family that is also not happy.
Then I asked myself what I thought it took to be a GOOD mom.
She is a mom who knows how to say No!
Someone who asks their family for help and can delegate tasks.
A loving yet firm parent and who can be spontaneous.
A woman who cultivate friendships with moms of all ages for support and advice.
A woman who understands that in order to take care of her family, significant other, and/or business, she must care for herself too!
A mom who can enjoy being a mom!
I asked my boys their opinion.
Me: "Ahren, what do you think makes a good mom?"
Ahren: "Taking kids on vacation like The Please Touch Museum, Cape Cod, or Disneyland. Where are we going this year?"
(Zachary, 17 years old)
Me: "Zach, what do you think makes a mom a good mom?"
Zachary: "Google it!"
Me: "Come on Zach. What do you think makes a good mother?"
Zachary: "A cool Mom is the best Mom."
Me: "Am I cool?"
Is rolling of the eyes really an answer?
Me: "Brandon, what do you think makes a mom a good one?
Brandon: "Some one who helps with homework. By the way Mom, I have an essay due tomorrow. Can you help?"
I asked my husband.
Me: "Honey, what do you think makes a good mom?"
Todd: "A woman just like you!"
Points award to this man!
I can handle being a not-so-cool travel agent, homework-helping kind-of-Mom.