Tuesday, February 19, 2013

When a child goes astray.

A boy who played baseball with Zachary in elementary and middle school and played hockey with Brandon is high school has been dealing for years, his father having cancer and passing away just a few months ago.

During the years his father was sick, this boy turned to drugs.  His parents sent him to rehab, twice. Even so, my boys told me stories about this boy still smoking marijuana and turning to heroine. Shortly after his father passed away, this boy broke into a neighbors home and stole money.  He was arrested and was out on bail when he broke into the high school and stole money from a fundraiser.

This is the news video report about the story.
http://www.wfmz.com/news/news-regional-berks/Student-arrested-in-break-in-at-Daniel-Boone-High-School/-/121418/18590262/-/4hgnfsz/-/index.html

He turned 18 before these incidents and will prosecuted as an adult.

My heart breaks for his mother and sister. Not only did they lose their husband/father, they are now losing a son/brother.  I shake my head in sadness knowing that this boy made choices that will change his life forever.

What happens?   I logically understand the boy being in pain over his fathers illness.

When is the turning point?   I logically understand why he turned to drugs to relieve this pain.

How can a child think that committing a crime is a good idea?   I logically understand how desperate he became to buy drugs.

Please do not think I condone this boys behavior. I do not.  I only can see the reasons why this boy chose the path that he did.  I wish he found other outlets to help him deal with his pain.  I pray that he finds peace through the tough years ahead of him.

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16 pretty purplexing comments:

  1. it's so sad all around. How do you help someone who can't or won't help themselves? How can you save them when they cannot seem to outrun their own demons? Such a helpless feeling. And there are so many who are lost and just seem to slip away because we just don't know what to do. I often ask myself about such things: who is failing who?

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  2. i am so sorry to hear about the boy and his family. i cannnot imagine what his parents are going though. love and prayers xoxo

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  3. That's very sad, and he's so young. It's too bad that it had to come to this, but I hope he's able to turn his life around and get the help he needs.

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  4. Me too. My boys talk about it with me a lot. They can't seem to make sense of it. It's hard for them to grasp why this boy has chosen to resort to drugs and crime.

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  5. Exactly what I am thinking. (You were able to say it much better than I).

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  6. it's sad really sad that you only wish if he had only reached out to a coach or teacher before it got to this point. Maybe this tough lesson will be the last and there is still hope for him. Addiction is a tough demon....my thoughts and prayers go out to him...and his family. You gotta hug your kids a little tighter and be thankful it's not you. ((hugs))

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  7. Big sigh. This is very sad. A child makes a wrong turn and things can go badly very fast. I'll say a pray for him and his family. jj

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  8. How horribly sad :( I hope things turn around for him, and he finds a different way to deal with his grief

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  9. That is very nice Joanna. They can use the prayers.

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  10. It is very sad Audrey. I hope he is able to turn his life around. He has a long road ahead of him.

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  11. I have a couple cousins who have struggled over this for years. After several bouts with rehab, one of them is still in and out of jail to this day :-( The other cousin is now married with 2 little girls and doing very well.


    I am hoping this young man finds the desire to climb out of this life style and can stay focused on that goal. But addictions are so hard to overcome without any internal will power. I will pray for him and mostly the family. Those girls are really hurting :-(

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  12. I totally understand. I have a cousin kind of in the same predicament. Growing up his mom (my aunt) was on drugs (thank God she's been clean and sober for 16 years now) he never knew his dad, he was embraced by his older brother's family who literally were a bunch of Mexican cowboys, totally into being bad, in a big way. And now, no matter how sweet he is as a person. Trouble finds him and he comes out of jail and gets violated right away, back he goes. I feel the same type of helpless pain for him that you're experiencing. What can one do? This boy, my cousin, need someone in the system to pick them up and say this person can be fixed. But that's not the way the system works. It works to keep both bad people (rightly so) and misguided people, locked up.

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  13. Even though I do not condone bad behavior, I too,agree with you. We are living in a time, when young people are going through so much in life, they make bad choices because of many circumstances that surround them. They are searching, lost, trying to fill voids of unhappiness etc. The thing that bothers me the most (and I saw a documentary on this) The system is NOT HELPING, but actually KEEPS THEM BOUND to it!! People, young and old, are going to prison like a hard core criminal for smaller crimes or less and being labeled with felonies etc. that was NEVER that way before. The lawyers, judges and politicians have changed the environment and people who truly are NOT hard core criminals(but have had some problems) are being sent to prison. IT's all for the $$!! why these laws have changed and people do not realize it!! This documentary was very informative on what is really going on in our systems. I wish something was being done about this.....young people make mistakes, some just need time to grow up and mature. (mind you, I'm not talking for those who really commit SERIOUS CRIMES like hurting people etc) Great post.....Roxie

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  14. The power of heroin is incredible.My friend's 17-year-old son died from an accidental overdose. Once that door is opened, it's very difficult to close.

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