Share! We must share the toys. Share the crayons. Share the dolls. Share the blocks. Share and be nice to one another! You must share and be a good friend!
I swear I must say these things one-hundred times a day. Considering I take care of 7 children at my daycare, 100 is a pretty accurate number.
Toddlers hate to share! Yes, it can be annoying - but you must remember they are just acting their age. Sharing is a skill that takes a few years for a child to grasp. It takes a lot of patience to deal with a toddler who screams "Mine!"
Positive re-enforcement works wonders.
Punishing a toddler never works. Instead: don't make a big deal over it, but do let them know you are disappointed and explain why.
When you see a child sharing: PRAISE, PRAISE, PRAISE!!
Catch them in the act of sharing and let them know they are a good friend by doing so.
There are times when sharing isn't the answer.
For example, when you deal with a child who whines that 'so in so' isn't sharing, just so he can get his own way. Believe it or not, kids can be sneaky that way!
When I deal with that type of scenario, I ask the children "Who had it first?" Typically they whiny kid gives it back. I then tell whiny child "You may play with the toy when 'so in so' is done".
Encourage playing together.
Yelling at a child NEVER works. It confuses a child and only makes the adult more frustrated.
It's good for children to learn to talk things out amount themselves. I will prompt "How can you do it together?" or "What can you do so both of you get a turn?"
It amazes me to see children interact and come up with their own ideas.
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