Any woman who takes on the selfless and unconditional responsibility to nurture the emotional and physical well-being of her kids and manages to do that successfully amid the chaos of running a household and often juggling a career has to be a Super Mom! Right?
I asked myself what I thought it meant to be a Super Mom.
I personally think being a Super Mom is a notion and not reality. She is a woman who has been programmed to 'do all' and 'be all' for everyone. Women have been taught to maintain a clean home, feed our family healthy foods, be the nurse, the care-giver, the taxi driver, the chef, the counsellor, the coach, the motivator, the boo-boo kisser and the list goes on.
She is also a completely stressed out and unhappy Mom with a family that is also not happy.
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Then I asked myself what I thought it took to be a GOOD mom.
She is a mom who knows how to say No!
Someone who asks their family for help and can delegate tasks.
A loving yet firm parent and who can be spontaneous.
A woman who cultivate friendships with moms of all ages for support and advice.
A woman who understands that in order to take care of her family, significant other, and/or business, she must care for herself too!
A mom who can enjoy being a mom!
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I asked my boys their opinion.
(Ahren, 23)
Me: "Ahren, what do you think makes a good mom?"
Ahren: "Taking kids on vacation like The Please Touch Museum, Cape Cod, or Disneyland. Where are we going this year?"
Moocher. :-D
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(Zachary, 17 years old)
Me: "Zach, what do you think makes a mom a good mom?"
Zachary: "Google it!"
Me: "Come on Zach. What do you think makes a good mother?"
Zachary: "A cool Mom is the best Mom."
Me: "Am I cool?"
Is rolling of the eyes really an answer?
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(Brandon, 15)
Me: "Brandon, what do you think makes a mom a good one?
Brandon: "Some one who helps with homework. By the way Mom, I have an essay due tomorrow. Can you help?"
Seriously?
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I asked my husband.
Me: "Honey, what do you think makes a good mom?"
Todd: "A woman just like you!"
Points award to this man!
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I can handle being a not-so-cool travel agent, homework-helping kind-of-Mom.
